Posted by on December 17, 2014

by Dr. Jack Bracy

You are only as weak as your secrets.  I was in my office and the phone rings and the voice on the other end of the line asks, “Jack, can you help me, I am afraid my wife is going to leave me.” As the story unfolds, an all too typical series of events are revealed: “I have had this addiction to…” or “my wife found out about my relationship with…” Change the words or the events around and we see an individual who has been carrying a dark secret. What started as an attempt to self-medicate a growing depression or the anxiety of ministry snowballed into an unmanageable disaster waiting to happen. We have fooled ourselves thinking we have it under control, but our out of control behavior is controlling us.

The sad thing is that this didn’t have to happen. Everyone has a past and everyone has a failing. We are all, sinners. The real problem is not that we have a behavior that threatens our marriages, families and ministries, but that we are keeping this problem to ourselves. There is a reason that the Bible says that we are to “confess our sins to one another.” We all have problems in need of redemption.

Here’s the thing, help is available. Fifteen years ago when it hit me, I like you told myself I could handle it and I couldn’t. I didn’t know who to trust with my secrets – I felt Isolated and alone. It wasn’t until I put away my pride and called a Christian Counselor that I found a way to overcome the problems that were behind my secret behavior.

Your secrets don’t have to win. Help is available. Reach out now.


Dr. Bracy is the Pastor of New Hope Community Church and has a PhD in Marriage Family Therapy. He provides no cost Christian Counseling for individuals, couples and families. He can be contacted @ 760-954-3794 or


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